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How interfaith couples handle their religious differences
Maintaining a successful marriage is not easy. It requires a lot of hard work. It becomes even harder if the two of you have different religious views. So, how do you handle the relationship when you cannot agree on that crucial aspect, religion?
Here are some tips that you might use:
Accept your differences and talk about it
The main problem that interfaith couples face is trying to ignore their differences. If at all you are to maintain a healthy relationship, it is important that the both of you talk about it. This will ensure that neither of you has wrong assumptions about each other which would slim out any chances of your marriage surviving.
Respect each other’s beliefs
It is important to understand that religion is a personal matter and it just remains as an opinion. For interfaith couples to coexists, it requires that both learn to respect their differences, knowing that no religion is better than the other.
Never try to convert them
Trying to push your opinions and beliefs on your spouse is the surest way of creating bad blood between the two of you. Someone’s religion is of importance to them. However, it is wrong to try to convert your spouse to share in your beliefs. If they want to convert, let it be from their own free will and do not coerce them. If you can never accept your spouse’s belief, then you might consider not marrying them in the first place.
Plan ahead for all issues in which your beliefs will be different
These include issues such as all baby rituals and any other religious activities. If possible, all these should be agreed on before you get married to ensure that all things run smoothly, saving you on unnecessary aggravation later on.
Find and develop a common ground
Stop focusing on the differences you and your spouse might be having. Instead, try and find any common grounds which focuses on goodness and morality. This technique of blending the two religions is a way of creating a deeper connection.
Be careful how you handle your children
If you have agreed to embrace each other’s religion, it is important that your children know that you respect each other’s differences. As parents, you may decide whether to teach your children a specific religion or alternately attend different worship places, learn the two religions and then decide the path they want to take later in life.
Flexibility is key
A lot of work has to be put in in order to make an interfaith marriage work. This might require you letting go of certain rituals or objects that you held on so dearly before. In exchange, you get to benefit from a more fulfilling wonderful relationship.
Learn and Participate
Get to learn more about your spouse’s religion and actually involve yourself in their family celebrations and rituals. This does not mean you get converted, it is just a way of having a major involvement in the religious life of your partner.